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  what a hard belief to grow up with

  by jwbot in

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  "there is no such thing as unconditional love and friendship.".

  this was said to me by an ex best friend of mine who is still in the religion when i mentioned that the friendship he had with me was conditional because he had shunned me when i didn't do things that he felt was the right path.. i feel this is a pretty sad belief to have...to actually feel that your friends and family only love you under certain conditions?

  is this a healthy idea of love to have?

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  LisaBoBeesa

  You said

  "When I Love someone unconditionally, I mean that I love them for who they really are inside, and will continue to love them all along their journey of life as they change and grow, even if they change and grow away from me. Because I love them, not their actions."

  And thats it in a nutshell.. You love them enough to allow them freedom of thought, freedom to change and grow. You are so right.

  I think when it comes to being disowned by ones family that the words I love you from such ones is so EMPTY. Empty words, that cannot be backed up with touch, association, a mutual sharing of any thoughts, no support in life's road,

  If faith without works is dead.. would not love with works be the same..(it becomes conditional)

  It's "dead love"

  J.W. teaching do not allow that good type of love but are restrictive and as you say "BLACK AND WHITE"..

  Where does that leave room for the human spirit, human frailties, and a whole host of where people came from. The conditions that affected them from their pasts and their dysfunctional families.

  All families are dysfunctional in some ways.. And J.W.'s leave no room for that aspect..of human fraility.

  they leave only JUDGEMENT.

  And lisabobeesa.. you are not rambling.

  I think the purest time I have felt the highest levels of unconditional love was when I first looked into the eyes of my newborn children and held them for the first time.

  They are so pure, so unaffected yet by my ways of thinking.

  No , your not rambling.. because ...now I am, as I stare far away out the window I'm sitting by.

  Special K
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  White Collar Sweatshops....You are Helping to Fund Them!!!

  by teenyuck in

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  interesting article in time magazine..... http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1101030804-471198,00.html.

  where the good jobs are going.

  some excerpts:jobs that stay put are becoming a lot harder to find these days.

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  Hey teenyuck

  I watched a television program about this a month or so ago and how INDIA is the buzzing place where big corporations are setting up..not only because of cheap labour.. but also because of the cheap labour for highly trained workers. computers technology etc.

  Boy .. it was interesting to see the wage of these workers for the same job in the U.S. What a big difference.

  It's just another reason I don't like telemarketing phone calls. After I seen this on T.V. I wondered where they might be calling me from?

  Interesting post, thanks.

  Special K
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  Finders Keepers?

  by SpiceItUp in

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  finders keepers?.

  what do you do when you find something that doesn't belong to you?

  what if it has no name or any way of locating the owner.

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  Pretty honest bunch of people here.

  Ravyn.

  I feel bad about the puppy though.

  I had a neighbour who found a little dog one time. Similar circumstance and it was obvious the dog wasn't being cared for. The vet said the puppy had on going ear infections and couldn't hear very well. It's ears were a mess!!! The neighbour spent about 500 buck to get the dog back to healthy over several weeks and then someone showed up and said it was their dog.

  The neighbour asked them to provide a proof of purchase and also for also to pay all the vet bills if proof of ownership could be provided. Needless to say, the people couldn't provide and proof and didn't want to pay the bills.. sooooo.. my neighbours got to keep this puppy and it has a better home than some kids I know.

  About 5 years ago, I forgot and left two cases of soda pop on my shopping cart (the bottom) and drove away. Once I realized, what happened (within an hour) I went back. There was no soda pop to be found.. so I went into the store office and asked if someone had turned it in.

  NOPE.. nobody turned it in. Oh Well.. it was only soda... and the lesson I learned is that DON'T FORGET TO CHECK THE BOTTOM OF YOUR SHOPPING CART!!

  Was that you spice it up.. who drank my soda?.. (funny ha ha. that we each have the other end of the story.

  But I agree, that most of the time it is circumstantial.. and alot depends on the value of the item found as to how much effort one wants to put into locating the owner

  The wallet with the money and name in it is a no brainer (call them)

  The cell phone that rings (tell them here it is)

  The camera (that was quite an investment.. I'll try to find them)

  The 5 bucks I found in the ditch.. I'll keep that

  The 2,500 dollars found in a money bag by the side of the road.. I'll try to find the owner.

  And the kid who makes the mistake at the cash register . Well, if there cash doesnt' balance that money comes out of their pocket.. and they only make minimum wage most of the time..so I will tell him he made a mistake.

  Special K
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  Please ......

  by SheilaM in

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  at 2:00am pacific time my son was awakened my his drill instructor, in the next 54 hours he will do a variety of team tasks, sleep 4 hours at the most and have two rations between he and his buddy.

  he is in the cruicible, for the marine corp. he has to finish to graduate...so all prayers and good thoughts are appreciated.

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  Shiela M

  Here it comes......wing, ding, dooey and zZZAP...

  I'm sure you felt that.. those are GOOD VIBES going your way from Canada.

  Special K
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  Anyone here like jogging?

  by Elsewhere in

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  i started several weeks ago and all i can say is wow!

  what they say is true... it is very adictive.

  the natural high is amazing.

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  Hey elsewhere

  I do my best jogging... to the fridge.

  and I get that good high, from the ice cream I find there.

  Maybe, I need to move my fridge to the neighbours house. That way I'll have to jog farther.. and after I'm used to that I'll just keep moving my fridge farther away.. Eventually I'll get up to 5 k.

  Good idea!

  Seriously, though..

  Good for you.. there's nothing like getting going to make your mind clearer and your body healthier.

  Keep up the good work all you joggers.

  Special K
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  Should The Watchtower Be Blamed For Everything Bad Happening In Your Life??

  by minimus in

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  at times, i read some watctower apologists complain here that everyone blames the watchtower society for everything or anything negative in their lives.

  sometimes, because of who is expressing this view, a few might jump on the bandwagon and attack the poster.

  but i wonder whether or not we at times need to deal with our own negatives about ourselves.

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  Hey Ravyn

  some good points there

  You said, "I'm not of the class who believes that negativity and suffering makes you a better person (it made me bitter not better)"

  After being disfellowshipped.. I was BITTER for many years..So very bitter. my bitterness almost destroyed me. I had to get a handle it.

  But.. Now my BITTER IS BETTER and I have control of my life, finally, and can be me.

  and I just feel sorry for the mislead people...the hurt people..The ones who want out but are held hostage in that religion because of family ties...I feel bad for unsuspecting children.

  The thing that might make me BITTER again would be if some dumb ass J.W. woman came calling at my door and wouldn't get the heck off my property after I told her to. That would rile me for quite a long time..and my bitter wouldn't be better anymore at least not for awhile. (and I'm not making light of that issue)

  Once I got past the bitterness.. I kind of wear my disfellowshipping kind of like a badge of protection.. a badge of honor..and have occassional told some unsuspecting J.W. "Hey, you can't talk to me.. I'M DISFELLOWSHIPPED" Voila.. Instant crap protection.

  take care ravyn, it sounds like the JW organization hurt you badly and I feel sad about that.

  Special K
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  Severe Forest Fires in Western Canada

  by RAYZORBLADE in

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  i saw a very haunting picture on the front page of one of our local daily papers.. city of kamloops, bc., in the foreground, and the sky and mountains in the background: orange red with flames and smoke consuming the surroundings.. serious indeed.. shamus?

  how are things near you?

  i understand that parts of alberta are experiencing some nasty forest fires, but the images i saw on-line and in the daily paper: disturbing.

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  10,000 people evacuated from their homes!!!!

  That is not just a little "smoky".

  Didn't the povince of B.C. declare a state of emergency? Or did I just think I heard that here on the other end of Canada.

  Special K

  Take care my B.C. Canadians..
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  The SOB Pedophile is out of Jail !!!

  by Amazing in

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  you may recall the earlier accounts of my son-in-law's father, a lifelong jw, who was turned into the authorities for molesting a young girl.

  nbc dateline was interested in the story and followed it for a time, but did not use it because the jw elders did not get involved.

  the man's trial was postponed several times ... when caught he had lied to the police and then confessed to the police ... all admissible because the police dotted their "i's" and crossed their "t's" ... but, in a surprise move, he turned around and plead not guilty ... then in another turn around, he finally confessed in a plea bargain agreement.

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  Why is it that some things that happen are so.. UNREASONABLE

  tHIS IS UNREASONABLE.. and I just shake my head and throw up my hands in disgust.

  Special K
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  What do you think of yourself?

  by Lady Lee in

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  ok i have read how some of you percieve me.

  kind - okcompassionate - okcaring - okstrong - oksweet - huh?.

  most often we define ourselves by the way we are treated and how others label us.

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  Lady Lee

  A truly inspirational post.

  It's annoying that as kids, one takes on the labels that parents give us, without questioning it...For they are out parents.. they are the care taker and I am the child... so they must be right!!! cause they are grown up and I am only little.

  I'm happy that you as an adult ... came to an awareness of this set up that was done to you..and that you have put it under the microscope.. one by one and .. "Hey, these labels were not true!" because you have proof that they were wrong and reasons why they were maybe only temporarily true.. but not true forever and for always.

  Your an inspiration, Lady Lee

  and now I feel good because of you

  and with that I can sign out for the day

  Special K
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  HE MADE IT.......HE MADE IT

  by SheilaM in

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  most of you know that my son is in bootcamp sd.

  he made presidential security team yaaaaaaaaaahhooooooooooooo

  this means he will be in the states.......

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  Special K

  A proud day for your whole family..

  It's nice to see our children reach out and accomplish their goals

  Best wishes and congratulations to you all.

  Special K